The synopsis of the drama "Happy ever after"

The story is basically about trust. Trust between husband and wife, trust between boyfriend and girlfriend… Trust is the key to “living happily ever after…” And more than often, this is easier said than done.
Sean is a down-to-earth lawyer, working in a small time law firm, with the heart of helping less financially-able families on legal issues. Mary is an editor of a finance magazine. They have been married for 10 years, living in an old apartment left behind by Sean’s parents with their six year old only daughter, Jennifer, in many people’s eyes, the model “loving” family. However, things are never as good as it seems on the surface. Though both the husband and wife take home a reasonable, healthy sum of salary, the continual rise in standards of living and the demands of multi-training Jennifer in Fine Arts, Piano, Computer classes, Swimming, Calligraphy is beginning to take its toll on the financial burden of the family. Things begin to take an even more sour twist after Mary attended her JC class gathering. As most of her former classmates are either CEOs, Directors, at worst, wealthy tai-tais, leading much more luxurious lives, Mary starts to lament her husband’s lack of ambitions for not trying his hands in bigger law firm. The non-ending argument breaks out once again, for the umpteen times… Eventually, when Sean decides to take up a big pay package in a multi-million company as their Legal Consultant, Mary’s lament turns into fear… fear of losing her husband to more attractive female colleagues, socializing with clients and lack of time for the family…
Sean’s in-camp training cum Sunday league pal, Vincent, is a manager in an MLM company, selling health products, and is the complete opposite of Sean. Flamboyant, good looking, and with a brilliant gift of the gap, is a cocky playboy who juggles between his fiancée and his hoard of KTV lounge affairs. The catch of this plot is of course that his fiancée, Annie, an innocent secretary in a multi-million company, has got no idea Vincent is such a person, and is planning for their grand wedding, thinking that she is the luckiest woman on earth.
The stories are interwoven through their meetings, contrasting experience in love lives, incidents and discussions in the office and through their kopi tiam chats. While Sean keeps telling Vincent to cherish what he has, he is, unknown to himself, putting his marriage to the knives by being ignorant to his wife’s feeling and needs. And with these spiraling into more complications of third parties, misunderstandings and coincidence, the trust between the couples withers… and the only way seem to be heading towards a divorce.

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This past few days, have been watching a tv drama named "happy ever after" on okto channel. To me, it is a very inspiring drama that talks about love, relationships and marriage.

When I saw how the female lead in the show suffered because of his husband is working in a big company and have no time for her, the female lead feels very lonely and empty and starts to feel that his husband is having affairs and creates problem that cause the marriage to almost fail. The drama also shows a lot of aspects such as kids, parents, in laws, money, etc. when it comes to love and relationships.

Overall, after having to do my attachment and have a feel that what the the real working world like, I feel that working life is definately not the life I want, since I want to have freedom, happiness and peace of mind for both myself as well as the one I love. I want more time and money to give and accompany the one I love. For that, I will work hard for now, to build a future where I can leave happily ever after with those I love.

Something that I feel is very meaningful:

沒有非誰不可
只是感覺有人陪伴
生命可以比較完整

沒有非誰不可
只是需要有個角色
好來共演想像里的劇本

我可不可以說
當你正為了這個人傷心的時候
你已忘了上一個
所以
當你為了下一個傷心時
就會發現眼前的這個
也只是過客

我們總以為非誰不可
那都是太過深信
愛情必定是主定好的緣份

可是我想告訴你
不管是相聚也好分離也罷
愛情自始至終
從來就只是
人們自己的選擇

祝有情人終成卷束：）
開心最重要噢！

After so long of not blogging, finally I am back to revisit my blog on 15 feb 2009. such a long time. lol.

Went out yesterday with some friends. Was very nervous because I decided to buy flowers for her and hopefully to make her happier with it. but when she turn away when I saw her at the mrt station and walk very fast ahead, i was very worried she would not want to accept the flower and i grow worried and become very nervous. Am happy at least she took and flower.

Realise that she did not talk much with me,am still wondering,what make us so like strangers. did i do anything that betray her trust and she said no, but still she said no one knows what really happen, just she have weird feelings and thoughts about me. sigh... I just and only hope that we can have the relationship of the close friends just like we use to be, with no lines attached at all, just purely close friends. At times, i really miss the memories i shared with her.

I dunno can others understand or not, but to me, when someone is so important that that someone becomes like your only faith and belief that one's hold, sometimes u even need their support more than any of your own family member, that certain someone is worth anything.

To end this post, i would want to say, I am not asking for anything, just want to see her happy and lead a good life.

"Love is not to keep someone by your side, or own someone to be yours, but to see someone to be in his or her best moments of their lives and be happy as u see their smiles on their faces"

Lovin' You - Minnie Riperton

Lovin' you is easy cause you're beautiful
Makin' love with you is all i wanna do
Lovin' you is more than just a dream come true
And everything that i do is out of lovin' you
La la la la la la la... do do do do do
No one else can make me feel
The colors that you bring
Stay with me while we grow old
And we will live each day in springtime
Cause lovin' you has made my life so beautiful
And every day my life is filled with lovin' you
Lovin' you i see your soul come shinin' through
And every time that we oooooh
I'm more in love with you
La la la la la la la... do do do do do

Every choice in our life has consequeces,
Human are creatures that hate to make decisions,
We never really like the feeling to choose one thing and give up on another thing
This is why when we realise,
There is a choice that can help us to achieve something without giving up anything,
and has almost no or less consequences and effect in our lives
where we get to run away from reality and not making any decision at all,
and have less stress and worries in life,
we choose to take that decision and travel that path.

We always thought that by doing this,
we can feel better since we get to achieve everything without letting go of anything,
but when we just drag on with the choices in our lives,
all we does is to create more confusion,
more suffering,
ended up hurting everyone that is related to the choices,
and ended up hurting ourselves the most,
since we are the most confused,
the most suffered,
and the one who blames ourselves the most.

Most of the time,
we find lots of excuses in life,
Is not because we cannot let go,
is just we choose to and dun want to let go.
Is not because we love or not love,
is not we care or not care,
is just we are too afraid and too confused to make a decision,
so that we choose to drag on things in life,
just to run away from making a decision that may seems to be painful.

Overall, humans are creatures that like to find excuses,
sometime, we are so good at finding excuses,
that we not only cheat the people around us,
but we try our very best to cheat ourselves,
to cheat our heart,
and tell ourselves that, "I am doing the right thing"
and the next word may be, "I dun know"
all this shows so clearly that we are confused and are cheating ourselves but we dun want to accept,
since we are too confused to make decisions,
so we ended up cheating ourselves,
and keep telling ourselves that,
the choice we made is the right and correct one,
even though our hearts sometimes want something else,
and because our heart did not get what we really want,
we felt confused,
we felt suffering.
just because we want to cheat ourselves and stick to something that we want to believe is the correct choice and decision to avoid making another decision in our lives.

Just an endless cycle of pain and suffering caused by ourselves,
since we cannot even differentiate who and what is good for us,
cannot even tell what are the things we really want in life and future to bring us true happiness.
So, we waste time in draging on,
just to linger and sink deeper,
into a world full of suffering and pain,
where there are just darkness,
and never has light and happiness,
but pure pain and suffering.

痴心绝对 李圣杰

想用一杯Latte把你灌醉
好让你能多爱我一点
暗恋的滋味你不懂这种感觉
早有人陪的你永远不会
看见你和他在我面前
证明我的爱只是愚昧
你不懂我的 那些憔悴
是你永远不曾过的体会
为你付出那种伤心你永远不了解
我又何苦勉强自己爱上你的一切
你又狠狠逼退 我的防备
静静关上门来默数我的泪
明知道让你离开他的世界不可能会
我还傻傻等到奇迹出现的那一天
直到那一天 你会发现
真正爱你的人独自守着伤悲

看见你和他在我面前 证明我的爱只是愚昧
你不懂我的 那些憔悴
是你永远不曾过的体会
明知道让你离开他的世界不可能会
我还傻傻等到奇迹出现的那一天
直到那一天 你会发现
真正爱你的人独自守着伤悲
曾经我以为我自己会后悔
不想爱得太多痴心绝对
为你落第一滴泪 为你作任何改变
也唤不回你对我的坚决
为你付出那种伤心你永远不了解
我又何苦勉强自己爱上你的一切
你又狠狠逼退 我的防备
静静关上门来默数我的泪
明知道让你离开他的世界不可能会
我还傻傻等到奇迹出现的那一天
直到那一天 你会发现
真正爱你的人独自守着伤悲
直到那一天 你会发现
真正爱你的人独自守着伤悲

I have nothing to say but to say that, is an endless pain to have something that used to gives u all the reasons and hopes to live with it in the past but never being given a chance to be able to really live with it in the present.

Everything is if, if, if, if there is no try, how would we know wat is the "IF"? Everything is being done, everything is being decided, no choice is given, no chance to be grabbed. Just full of regrets and sorrow since to realise everything has change until an extent that is beyond my control, beyond wat i can choose, beyond a choice that is being given to me, beyond anything in life but just pure pain and sorrow.

I tried everything all this while, I try to tell myself to not mind at all but just give everything that I am able to give and care with all the abilities that I can care and to love with all the heart to love without asking anything back in return but it seems the situation now is that am being pushed away just because someone that is more important in your life said so.

love is blind and so am I. To hold on something that may bring me to my grave, without even a slightest thoughts of hatred and anger, just dissapointment, but it seems, it seems is not really being cared by anyone too, just a twisted fate that I choose to travel down, with endless pain and sorrow.

I have nothing to say but if you think that your love for him who never ever wants you to have any relationship and any contacts with me, is worth losing me even just as someone by your side, what you would be losing is not just a friend but someone who supports you all the way without asking anything back from u and also someone who:

-someone who understands you
-someone who knows most of what you likes and dislikes in your living habits
-someone who trusted you with everything he got and never doubt you even a single moment
-someone who cares for you every moment and everywhere
-someone who never make u cry
-someone who never make u sad
-someone who never get angry at you and never blames u for anything
-someone who plans his life with you in his picture of the future
-someone who does his best to make your life a happier one with everything and anything
-someone who never fail to support u with everything he got
-someone who cannot heck care about you since he treats u like a family
-someone who always makes u the priority when he makes a choice in life
-someone who make a vow to take care of u as long as possible
-someone who cry along with u when he knows u are suffering
-someone who can accept u in his life with nothing asked from u
-someone who cherish all the memories that is shared between two person
-someone who make all the choices and action with your happiness as the main priority
-someone who realise how important are you in his life
-someone who do his best to be next to u and acc u when u are lonely and sad
-someone who let u tease and dun mind about it
-someone who is always worried when he knows you are not doing well in life
-someone who cares about ur health and remind u to sleep early, have breakfast and drink water
-someone who listen to your complains, help you to chill when u are angry and tries to cool u down
-someone who is happy and proud of knowing u and having u in his life
-someone that does his best to be totally honest and truly to u

and most importantly, whatever he does, he ask for nothing in return from u.

If you think that because of him and his selfishness in love that is worth losing someone like that is mention above. I totally respect with the decision and have nothing much to say about it. All I would say is, make a decision and dun regret it in future. be happy and be your best in life. wish you good luck in life and I guess all of us need it.

Anyway, take care and I will miss u a lot with all the memories we shared. Take care.

Today, I reached school around 6.30am and last night was a sleepless night since I know that u cried and I dunno wat is the real reason behind it, makes me worries sick with a broken heart.

What I have to share this morning is that in relationship, one always need to know and protect the weak spot from being discovered by the other person too early since we never know that the partner that are with us, are they really the good and kind people that we seems to know or not.

If your partner, whether is a he or she, knows wat is your weak spot, he or she will keep on make use of the weak spot to make you stay next to him or her. They can become someone who just do things without thinking about the consequences and without responsibility since they know that, when things goes wrong between both of the person, all he or she needs to do is to make use of your weak spot and make you feel bad about leaving him or her alone.

Someone who makes you cry throughout the relationship is never the people you are going to have future with since you cry is cause by the him or her making use of your weak spot to do certain things that he or she wants you to do or make decision that they want you to make but sometimes is really not the decisions or things that you really want to do or make. Overall, if one still hangs on with the relationship for a long time or even until marriage, do u want your marriage life to be full of tears and heart breaking moments just to so call forgive the person u are with? I really dunno.

Is true that a decision need to be made in a relationship as soon as possible to avoid hurting people that are involved in it, but when the decision making process has a factor that certain people is making use of certain people and cause influence on the thinking and moods, the decision made is never the decision that you yourself are sure and want it yourself since all your moods and thinking is being totally made use of.

Overall, all of this is what a psychologist used to tell me about defending myself in a relationship to avoid being make use and feel sad by the wrong people since last time and I guess is quite true for me. Is just something i would like to share and i hope you dun think too much about it. Anyway, please try your best to be happy and take good care of yourself.